“I didn’t have help and I survived so you should be ok”. They weren’t OK and they don’t want us to be ok.
This is what I tell myself as I hit month two of three full months of my children’s love and undying affection, totally uninterrupted by the school and work day break (can you sense the sarcasm)
It’s ok to do it a different way. You aren’t bound to raising your kids the way you were raised.
Black Motherhood is a journey and there is no right or wrong way. I am writing my family's manual as it happens.
Black motherhood has changed so much from my personal experience. Looking back on my childhood, a lot of mothers were surviving. They were in full on survival mode and did not have a way to put that experience into context.
Mothers are not meant to be everything to everyone and doing so is killing us.
Some women are down right shocked that a black woman can stay home and raise her kids.
So don’t believe the hype! CRUNCHY has been a black mama thing and will continue to be. Yes black women do THIS!